If Restorative Justice Circles can resolve conflicts in communities where people kill, beat, steal, rape, fight, argue, lie, and totally ignore authority — it can undoubtedly transform conflict in our homes. Of course who do you forgive more in a given day than the people you live with? That’s why Family Innocence has implemented Restorative Justice Family Innocence Circles, to facilitate “Soup to Nuts” conflicts in families, separated or together. The process starts by sending us your name and phone number so a facilitator can call, or RSVP for a circle practice held at participating mediation and law firms. It’s that simple – contact us! Like the credit card, the Process is Priceless. That’s because participating even once in Restorative Justice Circles, now offered by Family Innocence, can be an invaluable peacemaking tool.
bringing to mind the Proverb: “Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.”
After learning that Restorative Justice Circles were successfully used informally in family court, Family Innocence Advocates joined peacemakers from around the world, at The Gandhi Institute in New York, to learn to facilitate Circles from the master, Dominic Barter.
Here are 10 ways Live Restoratively Family Innocence is passing on to you:
- Take relationships seriously. Envision yourself in an interconnected web of people, institutions, and the environment.
- Try to be aware of the impact of your actions on others
- When your actions negatively impact others, take responsibility by acknowledging and seeking to repair the harm – even when you could get away with avoiding or denying it.
- Treat everyone respectfully, even those you do not to expect to encounter again, even those you feel don’t deserve it, even those who have harmed or offended you and others.
- Involve those affected by a decision, as much as possible, in the decision-making process.
- View the conflicts and harms in your life as opportunities.
- Listen, deeply and compassionately to others seeking to understand even if you don’t agree with them. Think about who you want to be in the latter situation, rather than just being right.
- Engage in dialogue with others, even when what is being said is difficult, remaining open to learning from then and the encounter.
- Be Cautious about imposing you “truths” and views on other people and situations.
- Sensitively confront everyday injustices, including sexism, racism and classism.